5. February 2025

How to deal with anger

When change seems impossible

Our heart starts to beat faster. Tension spreads through our body. We feel the anger rising. We may even blush, but at least we feel warmer. We are literally boiling with anger.
 
Anger is one of the basic emotions. People have always had to deal with it, because anger arises in the limbic system. The limbic system is the part of the brain that is responsible for processing emotions, among other things. It processes and evaluates incoming sensory perceptions and stimuli. An emotion then arises depending on how we evaluate the incoming information. When we are angry, we often feel personally attacked or we perceive something that we do not agree with.
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Just because we ignore our anger, it won't go away

Just because we ignore something doesn’t mean it has disappeared. However, it is helpful to first realize that one of our needs has not been met. We didn’t get what we wanted. We don’t agree with something, we had the feeling that we couldn’t do something or we think something was taken away from us.

Even if we think that another person is to blame for the situation and has made us angry, the cause is not the behavior of another person, but how we interpret that behavior. However, it is only when we realize that these feelings take place within ourselves that we have the opportunity to take responsibility for them and thus resolve them by changing our perspective on them.

Anger shows us what is important to us

Anger is not only negative. It shows us what is important to us and what we lack.
Reproaches that we express to others in our anger are in reality unfulfilled wishes. It is therefore better to formulate our wishes directly instead of expressing reproaches.

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